On this day 3 years ago, Jim and I discovered that we were going to have a baby. Those two dark test lines stared right back into my face as bold and stark confirmation of something I had been dreaming of my whole entire life.
The day I took the test was Monday, March 8th, 2010. It was early in the morning and I was home all by myself. I knew that I wasn’t, and couldn’t be, pregnant. For various reasons, but specifically, Jim had just had a sperm analysis that we were told was terrible and wouldn’t give us success(later our RE informed us that this was incorrect, but it was the information we had at the time) I usually made myself wait until CD 40 before testing, but that would have been on a Wednesday and I would have had to work allllll week. I knew I would want to tell my parents in person and immediately, so I went ahead on CD 38. I took the test. I didn’t even look at it as it processed. I was busy getting myself ready for the day and doing various other things. When I finally went to look at it and saw two little lines I couldn’t believe it.
I was in complete shock, but I was also in complete happiness.
I think the day I found out a baby was coming was the happiest day I have ever had.
I took another test just to see if it was correct(HA) Immediately, two more lines cropped up. I knew it was true.
First, I looked at myself in the mirror. I wanted to see what previously had seemed such an ordinary face in the morning, transformed into absolute glowing happiness.Then, I opened my bible and read 1 Samuel. I read and reread the section when God gives Hannah Samuel and her prayer of thankfulness and joy. Oh, how we had prayed and prayed for this baby before she even existed.
I called my doctors office and set up our first prenatal appointment. They were the very first people to know. Then I texted Jim to see if he could come home for lunch so I could tell him in person. He didn’t have time that particular day because he had to go to Duquesne and pay a speeding ticket.
So I met him in town at the Schlotzsky’s on 7th and Rangeline in Joplin. I told him I had a present for him. He opened up his present and inside was a KC Royals onesie and the positive pregnancy test. The first thing he said was, “Are you really??” I told him, “Yes!” and he smiled beamed and hugged me. Then he shouted, “they really do work!” (So romantic. Infertility has a way of removing all spontanaeity and glamour from baby making)
We had a delicious lunch and had so much fun imagining who this baby would be, what they would become, and all the things we couldn’t wait to do with her/him.
After Jim got off work that evening(we had to tell his boss, Aileen, to make sure it was okay if he came into work late the next day) and we ran into Jared in the parking lot and had to tell him the good news, too. We then got into the car and drove to Kansas City to tell my parents in person.
How we told the parentals 🙂
We showed up and my Mom was home by herself. She was so confused as to why we were there unexpectedly. She thought she had forgotten something important and was worried! I told her we had something to give her and gave her the frame. It took her a few seconds to comprehend what we were telling her, but once she did she completely lost it! She started crying and jumping up and down. And shouting. And crying for like 30 minutes straight (love you, Mama!)
She was so excited, not only to be a Grammy, but that our prayers had been answered. My parents had fervently been praying for us, too. My Dad had been on a business trip to Monroe, LA, but got home later that evening. When we told him, he was a little more subdued than my Mom and said something along the lines of, “Cool”(mostly I think he was just relieved we weren’t there to announce we were separating or something crazy, his face was ALL concern when he came into the house and we were there sitting on the couch) But the next day he sent me a text that said, “I have had a spring in my step all day. God is gracious and good! So happy for the two of you!!”
We had to call Jim’s parents to tell them the amazing news because they were in Phoenix, AZ. Our very first nephew, David, had just been born a few days before. Jenny had a similar reaction to my Mom and shouted in surprise and joy over the phone. We also got to talk to Jim’s sister, Brittainy, and share in the excitement with everyone that was there.
That night we had so much fun telling all of our immediate family and friends. We called all of our siblings, our aunts, uncles, grandparents, great grandparents, and best friends.
Everyone was so excited and happy. We all wanted it to be November immediately!
And then November came and that sweet, precious bundle of an Abigail Faye arrived and completely changed our whole world. The best thing we have ever been given. I still look back so fondly on that first day. The very first day we knew about her.