How Motherhood Is Different This Time Around

  1. I never wore Connor. Well, maybe a handful of times but he was the only one and like you said, I have two hands so why wear him? I wish I had thought for the experience.

    I think that as you experience motherhood with Mabel you'll see that while things are different they are as equally awesome because you are enjoying it with a whole new person.

  2. I have three (10, 8, 4). I think you do relax more about certain things with each child–schedule, cleanliness (bath), and germ exposure were less important to me along the way. Perhaps it was because by the time I had the third, the other two were in school so I had to be more flexible.
    I think the one thing I would change is knowledge about food allergies. My oldest has them, and I think if I had known what I do now, I would have altered my diet in order to protect him from them (I did with the other two, and they don't have food allergies). But hindsight is 20/20, right?

  3. Okay, I love this. I feel like we have very similar mama hearts. Sigh. Live in CLT, please? 😉

  4. Oh the bath situation is the same over here! Liam gets a bath nightly… Finn maybe twice a week… It's just that he is always asleep before Liam gets in! Second child problems for sure.

  5. I love this!!! I swear I thought I was doing everything right the first time around. And it's not that I wasn't, but I would definitely do things differently if we had a #2. Baby wearing? Yes please! What was I thinking?! Being so schedule regimented, freaking out if the pacifier hit the floor, and all the other first time mom worries… no thank you! I mean, I'm sure there's still things I'd worry about, but there's so much I'd change too!

  6. Amy says:

    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. That is all.

  7. Great post! I have a feeling it will be similar for me the 2nd time around too. The first time, you're trying to get your kid to sleep well, eat well, and do everything the 'right' way. I wonder if parenting styles affect children's personalities and how the 2nd born are usually more laid back 🙂

  8. well this didn't make me cry at all.
    i hope i skip the first kid thing and am just super laid back and do all the awesome 2nd kid things first. hahha. i'll probably freak out like crazy though, but that's the way i guess. i'm happy you're so confident in your parenting, i mean, obviously you're doing a fabulous job with both girls!

  9. This is so sweet, and I can relate 🙂 🙂

  10. This was so fun reading I almost (almost) wanted a 4th. 🙂

  11. Preach it!!! I almost feel like Im too lax when it comes to some things (Brielana eats sand, I do not even bat an eye) lol. Definitely prefer second time motherhood!

  12. I do find myself worrying about the clock as far as feedings. I am trying not to worry about it, but first-time mom over here! 🙂 I'm glad you're enjoying 2 so much. Although honestly right now I can't imagine wanting another ever again. Labor was not my friend.

  13. Ashley Dorey says:

    So true. All of it. It's so nice the second time around because (as far as the baby goes) there's so much less stress.

  14. Jessica G. says:

    I love this post so much. I am pregnant with my third after dealing with secondary infertility for years. My second and third will be about the same spacing of your girls. I have feared that I forgot all the infant stuff, but you have reassured me that it will all come rushing back.

  15. I'm pretty fresh at this whole multiple kid thing, but my gosh I'm so much more relaxed. While I like the idea of a schedule I'm not going to worry about what the clock says. Two days ago I was asked how Julia's schedule was coming along. I point blank said, "she's four days old – there is no schedule."

  16. Love this and couldn't agree more! We are sooooo much more relaxed this time around & I am convinced it's made her a better baby!

  17. Love these comparisons!!! Your girls are lucky to have you 🙂

  18. Debra says:

    This is great!

    I am a first time mom and feel I have done the in between of what you did for Abigail/Mabel for my child now. So that is promising that our 2nd will definitely have #secondkidsyndrome. lol

    May I ask your reasons behind not putting them in nursery prior to sitting up? We put our child in 3-4 months, when he became a tad too nosey in church. I ask just to see if it's something I would consider for next ago around. TIA.

    • Our church is really small so allll of the kids under 3/4 are in the same room. So I like for my kiddos to be a little less helpless before they get left in there 🙂 I also usually feed her during the service, so until she spaces out a bit more it's just easier to keep them with me!

  19. Lovvvvve this post! My husband & I both have been a ton (like a ton, a ton) less anxious and overly paranoid this time around which I feel has totally played into how happy of a baby Ben is!

  20. I think I'm a bit opposite of you. We co-slept with Ellie (actually still do…) and while I LOVED it, now I would really appreciate her just sleeping in her room most nights and our bed as a treat. So baby #2 will be learning to self soothe and sleep in crib much earlier on in their life. We will still co-sleep no question about it but I will be more encouraging of self sleeping next time around.

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