January 16, 2017
There is something that has been floating around in our society for a while now that has gotten under my skin time and time again. So much so, that I’ve decided to finally say something about it.
I’m tired of feeling guilty over screen time.
I’m tired of justifying how much my kids watch.
I’m tired of explaining what they watch(and thereby justifying why it was okay for them to).
I’m tired of feeling like a bad mom if my kids watch tv in a day.
I’m tired of the measure of my success as a Mom being based off of whether they watched a show that day or not.
I slowly started to recognize that this was happening because I could hear myself describing to Jim how our day went. If it was a “bad” day there was usually some inclusion of, “and the girls watched two movies today.” SIGH. I’M THE WORST. And if it was a good day? there was ALWAYS the inclusion of “and the girls DIDN’T EVEN WATCH TV TODAY” WOOHOO. I’M THE BEST MOM EVERRRR.
Isn’t that ridiculous?
How ridiculous is it that my day has been measured by whether a tv show or iPad game was a part of it? Why should I be embarrassed if Abigail wants to tell her Grandma about this super fun and exciting new movie or show that stimulated her imagination and made her want to tell stories about it?
Why, in a society that is SO COMPLETELY FILLED with technology, (you are reading this on a phone, tablet, or computer, are you not?) have we decided that it’s something we should keep our kids from, or at the very least, lie to our friends and neighbors about whether they actually use it or not.
Here’s the deal, technology is going to be a part of our children’s lives for…I’m assuming…ever. We need to help them learn to see it for what it is, and master it, just like we do.
Technology isn’t bad. There are so many amazing things we can do with it! And there are so many amazing things that my girls can do with it, too.
Don’t mistake me here, I am not making the case to replace everything WITH technology. Not in the least. We are still a house filled with books, and outside play, and dress up, and music. But I am so done and over feeling like a bad mom because I let them watch a show while I made dinner, or that we spent our family time together watching a movie, or that one of their favorite things to do is watch a show(because guess what, ME TOO!)
And it’s super easy to fall into defending, justifying, or explaining why we let our kids watch anything (in fact, I’ve deleted multiple paragraphs within this post where I default into trying to make it all sound “better”) but the fact of the matter is, letting your kids watch T.V. doesn’t make you a bad Mom.
You’re not a Mom fail, I’m not a Mom fail.
I might fail at a lot of things, but letting my kids watch T.V. isn’t one of them.
So! I’m going to stop letting whether we do or don’t make it through a day with it be my gage for whether I was a good Mama or not. Because I am one, and so are you!
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